I dream of anal

There's one thing I've never managed to master thus far--anal sex. It's not for lack of trying. I've purchased many plugs, beads, vibrators, dildos, and stimulators of all sizes over the years. When used in conjunction with vaginal and clitoral stimulation I've had some epic orgasms. But every time I've tried to get whomever I'm sleeping with to boldly go where no one has ever gone before it's failed miserably.

No toe-curling orgasms. No overwhelming sense of being entirely dominated by a man. Just a sore asshole and mildly perplexed guy (that I usually had to beg to even try it) to show for my struggles. I can't figure out how anal sex isn't pleasurable when I get the chance to act out my #1 fantasy. When I watch porn, read erotic stories, and yes--even when I masturbate, anal stimulation plays a huge role in if I have an orgasm or not.

I remember a former lover of mine that actually was willing to put up with my skittish reactions to anal sex for the rare occasions when everything would be just right and I'd do nothing but orgasm the entire time he fucked me. They were very few and even farther between but every time it happened I spent the next week sure my body could not handle cumming ever again.

It's been years since then, and I've spent a hefty portion of my time since trying to figure out why I haven't ever had a successful string of anal sex exploits. Today I think I finally figured it out while in the midst of an "experiment". What can I say, I just love doing research!

Here's the missing element when guys become involved: feeling like I have a choice. All the times my ex was aggressive and I felt dominated it was easier (and far more enjoyable) to just let it happen. On my own I always have the best response when I push myself a little bit faster then is necessarily comfortable. The appeal is in the head game.

Yes, I realize this is probably not the most typical reason girls don't get into anal sex. They don't want it to hurt, they want to be in control of the situation, they want the opportunity to back out when it quits just being scary fun and becomes just plain scary.

That's okay. Not everyone can handle what it means to be a tramp.